Hey friends......
You might all remember the orientation ceremony of Rajagiri which I was talking about in my first blog..... Well this post is somewhat connected to that...... I guess it was the second day in the induction ceremony and it was the post lunch session....... Post Lunch session generally for me and some of my friends means nice n comfy sleep time after a filling meal.... and a really boring speech or a professor can do wonders to serve the purpose.
I remember we had this wonderful HR trainer from the Hotel industry...... and most of his speech actually didnt appeal to most of us...... but yet there was somethinghe mentioned which when i gave serious thought to it really seemed to make a lot of sense to me...... and it answered a lot of unanswered questions....... He called it as the ' 90-10 PRINCIPLE'. The more thought i gave to this , the more sense it made n it really became crystal clear...... So, i thought i wud share this wid u all and i hope that this makes the same impact on u as it has started making on my life......
According to this,
We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%.
How? By your reaction. You cannot control a red light. However, you can control your reaction. Do not let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.
Let us use an example: You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just happened. What happens next will be determined by how you react. You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over.
She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work.
You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit zone. After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started te rrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home, When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.
Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?
A. Did the coffee cause it?
B. Did your daughter cause it?
C. Did the policeman cause it?
D. Did you cause it?
The answer is “D”.
You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day. Here is what could have and should have happened.
Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, “Its ok honey, you just need to be more careful next time”. Grabbing a towel, you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minute s early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.
Notice the difference?
Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.
Why? Because of how you REACTED.
You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.
This is the '90-10 Principle.'
After reading this, something clicked and I wondered, it really is our reaction to situations around us that determines the outcome and the consequences. Be it small issues like misunderstandings with buddies or parents or big issues like college related problems, family problems, every problem has a solution, and the solution ONLY depends on our REACTION.
So, I urge all of u.....No I challenge all of you to try this funda out maybe for a week or two n notice if there is any difference in ur life, the way people see u or talk to you.... The way I see it, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain. I was ...... oops... I am a person with a very short temper and most of my closest friends are aware of this. It is difficult to make me angry but if u are lucky and u manage to succeed, it is almost impossible for me to calm down, and for a person like me this principle has done wonders. It stuck a chord somewhere in my heart, and i started reacting positiveluy.... trust me its difficult, and very uncomfortable but once you get the hang of it... u'll truly notice a change in ur lives'''''''
So give it a shot... n lemme knw the results, I hope n pray to God that this be of help to all those who seek answers to why certain things keep happening in ones life witout cause or reason... Friends this just may be the answer you re looking for
Once again signing off for now, and awaiting your criticism, comments, love n feedback
Lijo T John
p.s : A beautiful disease called Love.... Pt- II almost ready... will publish soon.. watch this space for more....
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